BHAY Blog: Day 5, “Good to Go, Hard to Leave”. Getting By with a Little (Actually, a Lot of) Help from My Friends

My house numbers never looked prettier, thanks to my friend who painted the pots and the friend who added the plants!

One of the loveliest things about moving is that it makes time spent with friends more precious and appreciated. Although they will still be within reach of a phone call, text, email or Zoom meeting but the easy visit on a porch or over a cup of coffee is over. Even though I know I’ll be back in September when the movers box up and take my belongings, and again in November for a friend’s birthday celebration at the Immersive Van Gosh exhibit, when I drive away at the end of August it will also be the end of an era.

And it has been a good era for me in many ways. One of the best things that has happened over the years and now here in Delmont is the friends I have been gifted within in my life. It became clear to me how rich I am in friends when a friend came over with plants to dress up my home for an Open House, when several friends generously gave their time to help me move stuff and more stuff into a storage container, and another friend let me vent my concerns, and yet another painted flower pots to decorate my front steps, and a couple responded to my panicked phone calls when I knew there was no way I would be ready for a deadline without their help. Today a friend invited me to spend the very hot afternoon in her air conditioned home while realtors toured my home.

This has been a humbling season of my life, when I have done what used to be impossible: I have asked for help. That does not come easily to me, and I am often embarrassed to admit that I need help. But the kind and generous responses from those I’ve asked have been balm to my stressed soul.

And to put icing on the cake, there has been cake! Cherry almond coffee cake from the Knotty Knitters; marble sheet cake from the Avonmore congregation, and a wedding cake at a reception for a ceremony in.a rose garden, plus a gift basket from the Library in appreciation of my work for the community, and sweet meaningful notes.and cards. Those help provide meaning to my time here in Delmont, and give me courage and hope for my upcoming season in Waynesboro.

I am so grateful to have friends I both trust and enjoy. I will miss having them as part of my everyday routine even as I intend to maintain the relationships in some way. My hope and prayer is that I can pay forward their many kindnesses! I want to have the courage to be a friend and welcome new people into my life. As I sang in Girl Scouts, “Make new friends and keep the old, one is silver and the other gold.” It will be hard to leave my friends, and there is no guarantee that we will meet again, but they will always be treasures to me.

Today’s Prayer Poem is from the book Ecclesiastes 4: 9 – 12

Two are better than one,

because they have a good return for their labor:

If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.

But pity anyone who falls

and has no one to help them up.

Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.

But how can one keep warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

The third strand in my experience is God, the ultimate source of all good gifts, including friends. Connected to God , our connection to each other is eternal. 

Grace and peace,


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